Wednesday, August 24, 2011


Good morning!! So good to be back.
My mother in laws funeral was quite an emotional upheaval, amazing what families can sometimes do to your heartstrings. People make assumptions without really know what is going on and it can be unfortunate when that happens.
We were unable to make the viewing for her and it tore my husbands heart out. He had quite possibly the hardest decision of his life to make and as he couldn't be in two places at one time we had to miss it. We however drove all night to get to the actual funeral and almost missed being able to see her as they were going to close the casket that night to take her to the church in the morning and would not reopen it. Thank God for my sister in law that she begged them to wait for us and set up a time in the morning for us to go in alone and say our goodbyes.
With everything else that has been going on in our lives it nearly tore my husband apart, he was barely able to make it to the casket and had to sit down and completely lost it. I felt so completely helpless. We were emotionally, spiritually and physically exhausted from dealing with our day to day battles and for him to let her go....especially with so much unfinished business in his heart and so many hurt feelings it was beyond difficult.
Unfortunately his family did not understand out missing the viewing and probably never will. I tried to reach out to a couple of people for a small explanation and they would not speak to me. Other assumptions I think had been made. Sad, families are supposed to pull together at times like this. If we had in any way been asked about the timing of the funeral seeing how we were coming from out of town this could have all have been avoided. My husband is a broken man right now...but I will get him on his feet.
Now we move on and refocus on our family and keep trying to fix what we can and hope and pray in the days to come for a good outcome with our son and the dilemma he is in. I wish I had the magic to just make it all go away but all I can be is strong for him. I know this all sounds so confusing but I cannot get into the details...just again ask that maybe you keep his safety in your prayers.
As for my changes after a year and a half of being laid off I was given an incredible job offer. A life changing job offer. Good luck has not been in our favor for so long that I have to keep pinching myself to make sure that I am awake and it's real. I have a final interview I will travel to New York for on Friday and will be given my start date and cross the T's and dot the I's. I will be taking a position as an assistant manager for a department in Big Lots. Totally unexpected and totally amazing...
With this job brings the knowledge and security that I will never have a utility shut off again or never worry what I will feed my family for dinner. It's been a long year.
As soon as we are completely on our feet the first thing I will do is make a huge donation to the food pantry and that will be an ongoing monthly gift. I truly encourage all of you to give if you can. Just when you think that things can't happen to you it can all fall apart in the blink of an eye...hunger for your children is the most painful thing to see. With this job for me, NEVER again.
I've missed you all so much and am anxious to get all caught up with you and see what's been going on. I will still continue working on my heart lives to create.
Hope you've all been to check in on all of you!!


  1. I'm sorry to hear that some of the family was so hard hearted at your mother in law's funeral. Hard to understand, especially at such a time, but maybe the overwhelming emotions of processing loss cloud people's judgment. Good luck with your final interview. I'm so glad you see the light at the end of the tunnel and have a great employment opportunity ahead of you. ~Roberta

  2. Hi Kriss,
    Oh darling my heart goes out to you and your hubby right now.
    Reading this made me want to give you both a huge hug.
    I completely understand the pain a wife feels when their hubby is in pain.
    There really are no words to describe it.
    You just want to fix it and make it all go away, unfortunately there are times like these when we can't.
    I am so sorry "family" treated you both they way they did.
    Funerals are a time to come together remember the good and let go of the bad. Even if it is for a few hours.
    I will continue to remember you both in my prayers.

    As for the other news...
    I am so Happy for you!!!
    How exciting.
    Praise be to God!


  3. Kriss, I am so sorry about all the pain you have been dealing with -- and that family has not been beside you along the way. Prayers lifted for you and your husband for comfort, and for your son.... that God will watch over him and keep him safe.
    Congratulations on the great news of a new job!! And good luck to you during your final interview... Better days are coming!!

  4. Sorry to hear about the pain you and your husband are going through. I've been there, done that! I'll be keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.....

    Congratulations on your new job! How exciting!
    I hope you have a wonderful week. Take Care!

  5. Kriss
    My thoughts & prayers will continue for your family~

    I am wishing you the best of luck on the interview!!!!Woo hoo!!! Go get them girl!

  6. Kriss~ We have some in our family like that as well.I've always said if they were worth it they'd understand.Yes I know how hard times get sometimes,think most of us do just makes the good times all the more wonderful.Great news on the job.Keep up the strength girl you almost over the hump.Warm Blessings!~Amy

  7. So very sorry, Kriss, for your family's pain and losses....It is a fact that we cannot choose our family....I pray for comfort, understanding and healing.....And congrats on the job!! Sounds like a wonderful opportunity and a truly bright spot in what has been an otherwise dark sky for you all lately. Wishing you the very best!! Smiles & Hugs ~ Robin

  8. Dear Kris,
    I just want you to know I am praying for you and your husband. I so sorry his family is so unkind in a time of pain. Congrats on your new job friend. You are a wonderful wife.
    Big bear hug to you..

  9. Kris, I'm so sorry to hear all the saddnes in your post, and the excitement at the end. I hope you get the job that you so want. I will be thinking about you. Please keep us posted.
    Prayers are being sent your way for your husband that he will heal in time.
    Prim Blessings

  10. Well, it is too bad that this sort of thing has to be going on in your husband's family. I hope he leans on you and the Lord for the comfort he needs to get through these tough times.
    I hope my visit here finds you safe and not in the middle of the storms in New York. I will keep you and your husband in my prayers.
    p.s. Congratulations on your new job offer!

  11. I am so happy for you!!!! Good things come to good people.

    I will keep you all in my prayers. As for the food pantry my kids worked at one for the summer with my parents. It was a real eye opener for them. When my struggle began I relied on Angel Food Ministries to feed us. They now understand and are grateful for what they have. They even invite people to come and get help. It is a wonderful resource.

  12. Goodness girl, so very sorry you all are going through this all at once. That is a lot for any family to go through in any amount of time. I'm thankful for your new job and hope that it brings a renewed hope to you and yours. Best wishes!!


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